I cannot express enough how essential it is to not settle. Women - all women desire to be loved, cared for and wanted. We all have different needs that vary due to experiences and previous relationships/situation-ships. Sometimes we get desperate. Sometimes we're so independent and used to disappointment that we block out our thoughts and eventually that leads to denial. Thinking we don't want love, ever, we're fine by ourselves, our wine collection, random plants and pet(s) or simply, our loneliness. We get so caught up in negative energy that if our prince charming stopped us down the street and gave us a complement we'd snarl and tell him to keep it moving. Sometimes we're the woman that's in the relationship telling ourselves, "well he loves me and not her. That's just his mistress, sideline," or whatever the terminology for an excused love triangle. Bullshit, please stop there. Or you're that mistress thinking, "well, he's with me all the time now, he'll leave her for me." He just might actually. And then he'll leave you for her when he decides to get his "act together" or leave you for another and repeat his history with other women he grow interest in. 

Lose The Baggage:

We all have that one guy in and out of our life that's inconsiderate, or two guys, or three, hey no judging here. He sleeps around and you're expected to be at home while he do what he please as if you're locked away in an imaginary castle. Drop him. You don't need him. What is he doing for you? What, let me guess... He bought you a bag or two? He's buying you - buying your time and energy... right. That's definitely what love is about. What he's really doing is wasting your energy, energy that you could invest in yourself or with someone worthy of your time. Don't be afraid to let go of what seems good now for something that could be better. If it's not working out, it's for several reasons so stop making excusing for him. He's not a child, guys can be stupid but they're geniuses at manipulation.
 

FACT: ALL GUYS COME BACK:

All. But what do you do when they come back asking for your forgiveness, the 100th time? If he changed and is honest blah-blah-blah, yeah sure, take him back. But that's the thing. People don't change. They evolve, but don't sincerely change. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe it was the timing? Maybe you both weren't mature enough for a committed relationship. Either way, baggage weighs you down. If it's not reasonable, it's not worth it.